Getting Rid of Your Post Wedding Blues

The day has come to a close. You’ve just enjoyed the most amazing, emotional and exciting event of your lives. You have a fabulous new husband or wife, an album of gorgeous wedding photos and cupboards full to the brim with wonderful wedding gifts. You should be walking on air, right? Well, then why do you feel like there’s a big gaping hole in your life? Could it be you’re suffering from post-wedding blues?

Easing out of wedding mode

Just because your big day has come and gone, it doesn’t mean you have to banish wedding talk forever. A fun way to ‘debrief’ is to have your wedding party over for a meal (why not use the new dinner set you got as a wedding gift?) and watch the video of your day or look through your photos together.

There are still thankyou notes to be written and sent, and by writing these in small batches you can make this less of a chore and more a chance to reminisce. If you’re that way inclined, you could even put together a wedding.co.nz/scrapbooking-wedding-invitation-ideas/ “>scrapbook of wedding memorabilia, including a copy of your invitations, menu cards, Order of Service, fabric swatches, snapshots and other tokens of your day.

Envisage the future

Once you’re feeling recharged and ready for a new challenge, take some time to discuss (and even write down) your long and short-term goals as a couple. Having a plan will give more structure and purpose to your future. Now that you’ve achieved one of you major aims – finding your life partner – you might want to refocus and look to the years ahead together. Are you looking to buy a house or a holiday home? Are you planning a family? Do you want an overseas holiday each year? Where do you want to be when you’re 40,50,60 and beyond?

Having a picture of what you want and where you’re going will give you something to aim for and look forward to.

photo credit: Johnny Jet

Get out of the rut

Get out there and socialize. Spending time with friends and having a good laugh is a sure way to lift your spirits. Organize a dinner party or a pot-luck meal or meet some friends at a restaurant.

Remember, now that you’re not planning a wedding, you’ll have much more spare time.

It’s also vital to remember that there are plenty of things to look forward to.

Although many people say that their wedding day was wonderful, thinking of it as the most wonderful day of your life will only lead you to conclude that everything from now on will be downhill.

Nothing could be further from the truth. Your wedding day is merely the first day of the rest of your lives together.

It’s the beginning, not the end.